What Do You Actually Want?

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What do you actually want?  Do you want to be working in the job you’ve had since Uni which you don’t even like but stay in because it’s too much effort to look for anything else?

Do you want to work really hard and use that huge amount of money you’ve saved up to buy a house because getting on the property ladder is the “sensible thing to do” or do you want to use it to go and experience something?

Is your ‘Bucket List‘ board on Pinterest just a fantasy or do you actually want to make those things happen so that you don’t revisit that board in 10 years time and feel your heart swell in a wave of regret?

Do you want to keep your dreams in a little box that you never open, afraid that if you turn the lock you’ll actually have to change the course of your life?

You can do that.

Keep doing what you’re doing because it’s safe.

Keep turning up at the job you hate because going for an interview and having to start again would be too far out of your comfort zone.

Raglan sunset

I want to……go back here one day!! Raglan was so beautiful!

Keep saving for that ‘dream’ house, if it even exists.  Maybe even write a check-list so that you find the perfect home because then you’ll be happy, right?

Once you’ve got what you wanted, you’ll be happy?

You might think the point of this post is to encourage you to drop tools and travel, give up the life you have to start again on the other side of the world.

And if you want to do that, brilliant.  Let me know if I can help.

But what I’m really trying to say is wake up.  Because as cliche as it sounds, a life lived inside of a comfort zone is mostly not that challenging, not that interesting or inspiring.

If you want to see the world, travel.  If you want to meet more people, leave your apartment.  If you want to learn something new, start teaching yourself.

If you don’t like your job, change it.  Life is too short to be miserable.

What I’m trying to say is don’t take the easy way out, don’t settle for something just because it requires less effort.

Don’t get so comfy inside your bubble that you fall asleep on your feet.

There is a huge difference between going after something because you want it and going after something because you’re expected to want it.

I’m totally not in my comfort zone right now.  This week I started a new job in London and had to meet a whole new group of people.  I’m between places and living out of my suitcase.  I’m worried about money.  I’m flying to Seattle to meet some of my new team.  I’m still trying to find my feet in a city I’ve always visited but never lived in.

A smooth sea never made a skillful sailor

I knew this part wouldn’t be easy; the transition from 4 months at home to a new life in London.

But then who wants easy?

Who wants to walk the path that everyone else is walking just because everyone else is walking it?

It would have been so easy to leave New Zealand and walk back into my old life.

Except when I got home, my old life wasn’t really there anymore.

So I started a new one somewhere else.  Like I did in Australia.  And New Zealand.

You can too.


Exploring Dracula's Fire Garden at Dublin Castle
Review: Staying at Yotel Gatwick


    • says

      I also have a long list of people I want to send it to! Life is definitely too short to not do what you want to do. So many people just kinda go with the flow, which I think is boring!

  1. says

    Great post Beverley! Just what I needed at the moment as I’m surrounded by people telling that work is something to be endured and we all need to do it. I don’t care what anyone says, I’ll cling onto my dreams as hard as I can!! You should be so proud of yourself for making this huge change, best of luck in London town :-)
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    • says

      Thank you Madeleine :) Making changes in your life is definitely scary, especially when there’s so much uncertainty involved but I honestly think I’d rather be a little stressed than coasting along with nothing to challenge me.

  2. Flic says

    I just wanted to say thank-you so much for posting this and everything on your blog….

    I started reading your posts earlier this week, and it finally helped me realise what I already knew. Fed up of working 52 hour weeks in a job I don’t enjoy- this weekend I booked my flights and visa – flying out to Sydney in 7 weeks! Your posts are well written, useful and seem to echo everything I was thinking!

    Thank you for the inspiration!

    • says

      Aw Flic you’re SO welcome! And congratulations on booking your flight and getting your visa for Australia, that’s so exciting! Let me know if you need any help or anything, I made a video last month (which you can find on the homepage) about working holidays in Australia that might help.

      Thanks Flic! :)